So my guy friend tells me the last woman he dated was not marriage material hence he was just fooling around with her.So he tells me this i look at him in amusement.Then i ask him what is Marriage material?He gives me this list of what a woman should be and do.So i ask him are you marriage material?He was dumb struck as men don't ever grade themselves if they are marriage material themselves.Anyway i said he must think about it and not expect someone to be perfect while he is also not perfect.
Well growing up we were told that a woman will be graded if she is marriage material and i remember my mother saying a woman with clean knees was not considered for a wife as that showed signs of laziness.It was believed that a woman's knees must be dark to show that she goes down on her knees and clean the floor with cow dung.Lol.
The criteria has changed.I know woman who can not even boil an egg but are married.We all know men who cheat like its a competition or trying to finish the World's Cheating record but they are married.
The way i see it both sexes are not perfect then why should another expect the other to fit the criteria while the other folds his /her arms.
So i made a typical example to my male friend who dumped the poor woman just because she is not marriage material.Most men love night life with friends and that's acceptable.If you are a husband and you are out having fun with your friends until the early hours of the morning who is doing your husband duties in your home?Who is protecting your wife and children?It happens at night that criminals enter your house rape and kill everyone in your home and you are out at night enjoying yourself.How are you as a husband if that's how you conduct yourself in your marriage?
And you get woman who also adopt the same behavior.Out on a girls night and put yourself in danger.
Honestly what is marriage material because to me both sexes are in a car but not one is driving.I think marriage is initiated so that both parties can take responsibility in making the relationship work and to a better future so why must one individual be perfect?
You are looking for a spouse that is marriage material.Are you marriage material?
Anyway am out to find my marriage material partner.Thats if there is such a thing.Lol.
hi there..i love your worldview destiny lady!!! i also love this topic...i always hear men and women going on and on about the perfect partner and what makes a marriageable person. the list is always long and is based on so many things but then the question is how marriageable are you? we have so high and unrealistic expectations of each other in a relationship however no one is willing to acknowledge that in life iron sharpens iron..so if you want a perfect partner then you need to be one yourself.marriage is a process and perfection does not happen overnight.haaibo, ditsala, lets get real and let the change first start with us.
ReplyDelete@ Destiny Lady: Look no further im here. lol!
ReplyDeleteEintlik, die-dang depends on how we were raised up. we, guyz, would want someone who is almost as close as possible to behaving like our moms, someone who is responsible... yea, someone who will set a standard from the rest. I know us guyz, thina we somehow go for a woman who is not lazy and is always up her feet in taking good care of her king and places her family first priority than out on a girls night. Who will not leave her home duties for the maid.
So, I think people usually define their partners whether they are marriage material or not by the 'list' they have acquired from their folks and over the years.
But we don't realize that people grew up from different backgrounds and the fact we are dating it should be an opportunity for us to broaden our own perception of who and where they are from.
My point is that if you are looking for a perfect marriage material person it should not be the idea of your mom or dad. But someone whom will grow with you. But who am i kidding, that aint gonna happen!
So there is such a thing as marriage material and it differs from person to person. We all have the minimum requirements or qualities of what a person should be in order to be considered. Just like when dating, we dnt go for any dick and jane. we usually go for someone who is in our league
I love your Topic Destiny88.
ReplyDeleteMy opinioun would go as follows:I know there is such a thing as marraige material yes it has to come from both sides. Remember b4 you made that decision it was purely based on how you have lived your life so now you wanna settle down. Then the part comes where hubby discuss his flaws with the guys my wife my wife that.
But then again we woman do the exact same thing hubby this hubby that.
Me the perfect couple would be the ones who are insinc with each other,finishes eah others sentences. Marraige material would be where you both go out together have fun come home ,have a good laugh about the events of the night b4.
Spen time with the kids at all times together.No man can decide whether a woman is marraige material as it goes both ways. Cant marry a man that was all lovey dovey at first after the i do"s he does not.
@sruff you have a point most men are like kids luv the attention of their mummy,so their feel teir wifesshould be just thta wich i think is very wrong. As we both have t grow into each other inorder for our generation to grow.
@Anonymous i love how you both look at it.I love the way other people think it opens up my mind.
ReplyDelete@Scruf am not looking sugar.Thank you for the offer though.lol.