You may all call it Pre-nup but i call it Marriage corruption.Its amazing how people marry with intentions of getting a divorce or preparing yourself for something you do not want why are you still getting married if you know you going to get divorced>
Look i know people get married for all kinds of reasons and get this Pre-nup for different reason also but i think we have shifted our focus on all the negative things about marriage and people have even forgotten that marriage is about Love.Marriage should not be prison but it also should not be like a Shebeen were all come and go as they please.
A man is suppose to take care of his family as that is what you get when you get married a family.Its even easier nowadays because as ladies we help too and bring in a income.What happens when one of the parties passes on?Isn't the other partner entitled to the deceased assets since they have worked together in building what they have?We are now talking about wealth accumulated while married i do not have problem about wealth he/she has before our engagement.When people are married they do not only invest their hearts but their support too.So now for all my support those nights when you were working or making sure you came home to a Great home,with Hot food on the table,kids taken care of when we divorce you just walk out like i was a temp Maid?Even when you get retrenched you get retrenchment package.Lol.
People use people to get ahead whether by having a partner to cheer you on the right direction and once you there you dump them like a hot potato but i think its only fair to share what we both have worked for.To me this is Marriage Corruption whether a woman marries a guy so she can cash big at the bank after divorce or a guy wants a supportive wife with contacts to get ahead and ditch her when he has reached his destination.Its all Marriage Corruption.
Am personally will not get married with someone who ask for a Pre-nup if he thinks am after his money then why is he popping the question?
Anyway to those who are Pro Pre-Nup good for you and to those who are Pro In-community of Property be an active partner in your partners live so you can both succeed.
Am off to be a Sun bum as its cold.
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ReplyDeleteI turn 2 disagree that u don't need 2 prepare 4 any unforeseen circumstance. if marriage was about love, Y do u need certificate 4 love, Y do u sign documentations 4 love. what n who u r 2day maybe different tomorrow n u need 2 b on the safe guard.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous i agree with you but the culture we have adopted is also making us suffer.
ReplyDeleteWe wake up each day with not idea if we gona make it through the day but we do.We do not expect to die when we go out.We go out happy.Why can we not treat marriage the same why must you expect the bad?
@DestinyLady88;GREAT BLOG... Why get married to some-one you don't trust?thats what a pre-nup means to me and honestly i will not have it,i'm engaged right now and i never questioned whether i should have a pre-nup or not,i'm going into marriage with good hope's and dreams...til death do us part,isn't that what they say...
ReplyDelete@Anonymous thank you.Thats how it should be.Shocking stats is that 85% marriage with Pre-nup end up in divorce because both parties are holding onto things that should belong to both.Imagine if you married with a pre-nup and your husband or wife gets retrenched.You will have to pay her/his bills anyway as you do not want her or him to suffer.You not going to let her/him suffer.The tension of Greed of who owns what is not good for any relationship.You can not claim you love someone but not want to share your blessings with them.God has given us power to provide for each other as partners in relationships and marriages.So how can you let your wife/husband suffer while you have money all because you have a Pre-nup.
ReplyDeleteI think u forgot to make mention that u get 2 types of pre-nups, namely, with accruel and without accruel, I will definitely go for the one with accruel.
ReplyDelete@Anonymous please educate us on the difference between the two you have mentioned.
ReplyDelete@destinylady88 with accruel is almost the same as COP, the only difference is that all the assets u accreud or owned before u got married will still be urs in the event of a divorce, so the only assetts that is shared in the case of a divorce is the ones u jointly accrued when u were legally married.
ReplyDeleteWithout accruel is the one u referring to in ur blog, without accruel can be a good thing when one of the partners is self-employed, which means if the business goes down than the other party (partner) won't suffer.
@Anonymous now i understand.That seems like a good one.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to highlight that fact as well Anonymous,the one with accruel is not greedy and behinds you can sell everything that you got before marriage and start afresh,it also helps when it comes to inheritances,should your parents die and live you with their house.honestly if your husband or wife is not greedy why would it bother him\her if you don't share what your parents left for you,they worked hard for you not for you and your husband.COP is good but way too old fashioned.How frustrating it is not to have life covers and when the spouse passes on you have to pay all his\her debts instead of raising your kids with the money that he left behind.I also understand those who choose to go completely out,with spouses murdering one another because of money is absurd.Sometimes people go into this not thinking divorce but rather security for their loved ones.if its a business person and the company becomes liquidated,where will you start.no home,no car,no money etc.
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ReplyDeletethis is a very serious issue. I don't understand why I should separate myself from my husband, when a couple is wedded the priest has a scripture that he reads after the vows have been exchanged(don't know if it still happens) that says you are now one. How do you become one with your spouse if you have things that you call your own? Are you in the marriage on your own?
i still prefer the old fashioned marriage cause i bet you, most people who think about such things don't even have businesses, the only thing they are thinking about is divorce. I wouldn't marry a man who wants a pre-nup.