Dear Woman from 1959.

Dear beautiful,brave,intelligent,caring,stylish and loving woman of 1959.

You do not not me but i know you.I know who you are and what you stood for.Your bravery and kindness lives in a number of us and the reason why i say a number of us is because some know you but choose to ignore you.I owe you my life and me being here could not be a bigger blessing combined with you.Knowing you makes me want to take over the world because you showed me its possible.You changed my future for the better.You gave me the key to open my out to my journey.

When i listen to your peers who are still with us on this earth i can not help but cry tears of sadness.The amount of bravery you went through and pain so that a woman like me can have a voice and a place in the world.You are truly an extraordinary woman.

You never left your duties unattended.Your husband had supper and clean clothes,your children were looked after,you dressed in fine clothes,you carried that baby on your back and went to claim what was rightfully ours as woman.
We bare the fruits of your bravery,your pain and you kindness in our success.As much as many of my sistas have let us down but i can assure you there is a number of woman who have not let you down.From the domestic  worker to the CEO woman.I wish more woman understood what you stood for and cherish it by being Great woman like you were.You never had to wear a short skirts to be noticed.You were never at a shebeen looking for attention but instead you were out there fighting for all.

Your saw our pain and just like mothers you went to intervene.

I wish all woman can be Great woman from the woman in the Rural area to the woman in the city.I wish they can understand being a woman is not just about the body,the beauty but how you pave your journey in this world.How you treat others and what you stand for.Stand for reality and be true to yourself.I wish many woman can be like you woman of 1959.If i can be half the woman you were i would know that i have made you proud.


I write this piece to Mam'Albertina Sisulu,Mam'Winnie Madikizela Mandela,Mrs Helen Suzman,The Late Mam' Bertha Gxowa and many more beautiful souls.

How many woman celebrate woman of the past?Do you know what they stood for?Do you know how did they live?
Just a day after woman's day i wonder if woman of the past are proud of what we woman of 2011 have become.

You have paved the road for us its time for us woman of 2011 to do the walk.
Siyabulela manqobokazana.

Dear Mistress aka Nyatsi.

Dear Mistress aka Nyatsi.

Am writing this letter woman to woman.I am not here to judge you but to tell you the truth and hope this will save you from being like a used toothbrush.

I have been told woman like you lack in Self love and confidence.Am told woman like you like to be challenged that you are better than the wife or the main woman.You are attracted to married men or man who have stable relationships?

I have been told that you do not mind sharing and at least you know where he is when he is not with you and that's OK in your books.

For how long will you be someones side dish to offload his fantasies?Does it not bother you that he choose to pay lobola for his wife and yet he uses you?Does it not bother you that he is using you and will never meet your family and do things right?Does it not bother you that you going to hang on to him but when he dies you will get nothing and you will not even attend his funeral?Does it not bother you that you have been dating for years but never spent a night at your place?Does it not bother you that its been years and has not left his wife?

For how long will you put up this Drama in your life?Don't you think you are worthy of a man of your own?Do you really think that God will bless you with your own man while you are busy with another woman's blessing?Remember this man and his wife declared their love in front of God and God blessed them,so you between them means you have no respect for God.

Do you really think if he cheated with you he will not cheat on you?Do you really think you have a chance of a relationship while the foundation is based on cheating?

At times i feel sorry for you because life has a funny way of working out and people like you always end up alone and sad at the end.

I hope you read my letter and do some introspection and decide is this what you really want in your life to be second best who will get nothing.Even a dog gets a bone once in a while.

Destinylady88

Cheating Can Break a Man.

Some of you are going to jump on me as am only looking at it from a man side.I know i know woman also cheat but will get there.

Cheating is at its peek at the time we living in.We all know its bad,wrong and hurtful yet we get people who still practise it.We all know that there is an epidemic of Aids and HIV but for some reason people think they are immune.

To be cheated on is the most hurtful thing and worst part is that no matter how much the partner that cheated pleads for help the hurt party will never recover that's a fact.

Men are the most cheaters that is a proven fact judging by how many woman are bitter and angry.Out of 10 woman 8 of them have been cheated on by their husband or boyfriend whether they know it or not.It seems man use cheating as a disability crying out when they are caught with excuses such as"i could not help it","she seduced me","You were not doing the **** style with me in bed"All these excuse are not valid and woman can easily use them too.

Society is such a hypocrite.When a man cheats he is crowned a man amongst men but when he is dying of HIV/Aids the same society laughs at him.

Cheating can break a man.Its can leave you with nothing read Proverbs Chapter 5 from verse 1.You can be a wealth man  with a wife or girlfriend and cheat with anything that walks make babies all over but in due time those woman you were cheating with outside will come into your life demanding money to raise the kids you have outside.You will find these woman making trouble in your life up to a point your wife will leave you.Woman who are willing to cheat with you are evil as when they are scorned and relationship does not go their way they will go out of their way to destroy you.

Look at some famous wealthy men who have be broken by cheating.

1.Arnold Schwarzenegger.he has to loose half of his wealth to his soon to be ex wife.The mistress is also queuing for her child.People will never respect him.His dignity down the drain.
2.Tiger Woods he had it all but a few rounds in a hotel is all it took for tiger to loose half of his wealth to ex wife Erin.Some of the mistress were even paid to keep quite as they were more.
3.Bill Clinton stepped down as the president of the USA just for a few rounds with Monica Lewinsky.
4.Thinus Crous paid too much attention on Ms Mbau that he did not even see his company going down.Now people have no desire to help him nor do business with him a he is known as a cheating husband.

After such an ordeal society has no respect for you.You have lost your credibility as a important man in society.You are looked down upon and your a broke.

Well the list goes on but i hope i have opened eyes to all those cheating brothers.One day it might be you when that child's from a mistress rings a door bell and your life with your wife is turned up side down.

DestinyLady88 101 on how to get over your EX.

I hate people who dwell on the past they can do nothing about especially when it comes to love so i have compiled my list of how to get over an Ex.Remember guys this is my 101 so judge me all you want but add your own.Lol.

• When dating do not memorize your loves cell phone number.This is to avoid drunk dialing him after break up or having that urge to call and embarrass yourself.

• Delete number and all means of contact even if it means loosing mutual friends you had together.

• Sit at home and cry like a donkey.Some Exes are like antibiotics you have to cry them out your system.

• Do not answer calls from him and no friendly coffee dates its Over damn at!

• Look hotter by taking care of your body.If he hurt you put a poster of his face on a punch bag and box it till you have no more breath.

• Make new memories and restart your brain like a computer.Lol.good luck.

• Go fishing for new meat i meant hunting.

Are you the Daddy?

This is probably going to get a lot of people talking or even worst open a can of worms.We all know man are pathetic liars and well not very good at it but woman are the best of all liars.Woman take their lies to the grave unlike man who go to the local pub to boost about their bad ways.

Once i received a call from a lady friend in a state and crying.I ran over to her place to find out what is the matter.Only to find out that she is pregnant so i assumed she is too excited hence the tears.No i was in for a bigger surprise.SHE DID NOT KNOW WHO THE FATHER WAS!I was so shocked even a full bottle of wine i was still sober.I did not want to go into details but i am bad liar so i told her to come out with the truth and tell both man that she does not know who the fathers is i mean that is all i could do.If she ever came out with the truth only God knows.

Between me and you i think she choose the guy with the most money because that child looks nothing like his father.I hope to God am wrong.

What am trying to say is that how many Man are 100% sure that they are raising their own flash?I mean she got pregnant and you took her word for it.

Well if you ask me i think DNA should be compulsory after child birth whether married or not.Am just drooping a hint for the Government people please do not get angry with me.

This will also catch those many who make a deposit and do not want to make a withdrawal because the charges are too high.Yes!the man who make babies and when they are trying to hide from paying maintenance they say they ain't the daddy.

Well i did not write this for people to fight but i hope you can all avoid this by using condoms.Lol.

After all condoms are cheaper than Pampers.

Blow your own horn!

Excuse me if i own the horn why can i not blow it?Don't get me wrong am not saying successful people should not be humble because without people you are nothing.Yet again there are those who will throw mud at your success because they are jealous or envious.I mean really what is stopping them from being successful.

In life people will be successful its a fact.If you gonna act like someone stole your lollipop and throw nasty and dirty remarks that's your won issue time is running.

I love people who blow their own horns but still stay humble.Some of us will spend a lifetime waiting for others to blow your horn and they won't even though they can see you are a star in the making because they are jealous.So blow you own horn today and do not wait for those sorry excuse of human beings.

Remember there are people who's opinion matter and there are those who just huff and puff.Do not be deaf to constructive criticism as it makes you improve and be stronger but be able to see the difference between being bullied and being constructively criticized.

If everyone likes you be worried as some of that love will be fake so be carefully.

No road to success has not pot holes so see these silent loose rs as potholes.Carefully avoid them by either driving over them or swiftly drive around them.

Everyone has haters even Obama.So you are no different.

Blowing your own horn is confidence and self love but remember to be humble.

What is marriage material?Is the such a thing to begin with?

So my guy friend tells me the last woman he dated was not marriage material hence he was just fooling around with her.So he tells me this i look at him in amusement.Then i ask him what is Marriage material?He gives me this list of what a woman should be and do.So i ask him are you marriage material?He was dumb struck as men don't ever grade themselves if they are marriage material themselves.Anyway i said he must think about it and not expect someone to be perfect while he is also not perfect.

Well growing up we were told that a woman will be graded if she is marriage material and i remember my mother saying a woman with clean knees was not considered for a wife as that showed signs of laziness.It was believed that a woman's knees must be dark to show that she goes down on her knees and clean the floor with cow dung.Lol.

The criteria has changed.I know woman who can not even boil an egg but are married.We all know men who cheat like its a competition or trying to finish the World's Cheating record but they are married.

The way i see it both sexes are not perfect then why should another expect the other to fit the criteria while the other folds his /her arms.

So i made a typical example to my male friend who dumped the poor woman just because she is not marriage material.Most men love night life with friends and that's acceptable.If you are a husband and you are out having fun with your friends until the early hours of the morning who is doing your husband duties in your home?Who is protecting your wife and children?It happens at night that criminals enter your house rape and kill everyone in your home and you are out at night enjoying yourself.How are you as a husband if that's how you conduct yourself in your marriage?

And you get woman who also adopt the same behavior.Out on a girls night and put yourself in danger.

Honestly what is marriage material because to me both sexes are in a car but not one is driving.I think marriage is initiated so that both parties can take responsibility in making the relationship work and to a better future  so why must one individual be perfect?

You are looking for a spouse that is marriage material.Are you marriage material?

Anyway am out to find my marriage material partner.Thats if there is such a thing.Lol.