Dear Mistress aka Nyatsi.
Am writing this letter woman to woman.I am not here to judge you but to tell you the truth and hope this will save you from being like a used toothbrush.
I have been told woman like you lack in Self love and confidence.Am told woman like you like to be challenged that you are better than the wife or the main woman.You are attracted to married men or man who have stable relationships?
I have been told that you do not mind sharing and at least you know where he is when he is not with you and that's OK in your books.
For how long will you be someones side dish to offload his fantasies?Does it not bother you that he choose to pay lobola for his wife and yet he uses you?Does it not bother you that he is using you and will never meet your family and do things right?Does it not bother you that you going to hang on to him but when he dies you will get nothing and you will not even attend his funeral?Does it not bother you that you have been dating for years but never spent a night at your place?Does it not bother you that its been years and has not left his wife?
For how long will you put up this Drama in your life?Don't you think you are worthy of a man of your own?Do you really think that God will bless you with your own man while you are busy with another woman's blessing?Remember this man and his wife declared their love in front of God and God blessed them,so you between them means you have no respect for God.
Do you really think if he cheated with you he will not cheat on you?Do you really think you have a chance of a relationship while the foundation is based on cheating?
At times i feel sorry for you because life has a funny way of working out and people like you always end up alone and sad at the end.
I hope you read my letter and do some introspection and decide is this what you really want in your life to be second best who will get nothing.Even a dog gets a bone once in a while.
Destinylady88
I am also married and luckily or should i say by the GRACE of the Lord I haven't found my MAN cheating... I haven't even suspected that he may be CHEATING but what you have written about ladies competing with the wives for the self esteem and selfish reasons is TRUE and they TRULY need to do some INTRO to understand the intensity of the damage they are causing not only to the wife but to God himself because in the bible it is stated that let no man separate what God has brought together (man and woman).
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yooo true that lady true that i wish women can can from it and stop clinging on other ppl's property
ReplyDelete@Anonymous1 Thank you sugar.In reality these people miss out on their love because they are wasting their time with someone who already has found love.Do they ever think while they waste time with these men they could have met the man of their dreams?
ReplyDelete@Anonymous2 well i don't think anyone is anyones property but repesct for what you have been blessed with is needed.A man and a woman meet because of God now who are these woman to break that?Are they saying God is stupid?according to my knowledge God has funny ways of punishing people.
Mina, I look up to my President and King Mswati when it comes to dating. They are my heroes, instead of cheating, rather make it official and take as many as you can afford if you can manage.The good thing is that each and evryone of your wives will know where you are and chances of getting infected with HIV+ Aids are zero,if they are honest to you.
ReplyDeletenice article sista gal
ReplyDeleteolga, that was good babe
ReplyDeleteThis is quite interesting topic....Mistress/Nyatsi/Makhwapeni...or whatever..
ReplyDeleteI have underlined the motion(s) submitted in a form of series personal questions..Yes its true,and if we look at the topic/subject a week ago, under.."Cheating...man.." you will realize how they correlate, and the subject on the table now takes it bit further, and it brings mor light in...
Well,if the Mistress/Nyatsi/Makhwapeni enters that field of cheating with her sugar dude, surely she knows what package comes along, correct?Otherwise i dont see the reason why she has to put her signature on the "book", and its more like she says,"ok i will go with the flow,deal with it,en ek sal sien wat gaan aan"..
And what you put on the table its true my sister, and i think it goes to the heart..to flashback at our values, and the fact that women are more than men, does not qualify that the Mistress,or rather say we cannot use that as a leverage to accommodate the Mistresship at anyway as some may suggest..
The July 2011,Statistic SA, penned down female to be 26071721(52%) and male to be 24515036(48%), and you can see that the Stats are very close,of which i think more/less most people,not all, will have his/her partner,i may be wrong cos i base my judgement on that, but that as you mentioned quite striking questions Ladd88,we can raise the question again..Why they do that?
I think its high time,we,men,women, we must revisit this Mistressship course and change our attitudes,despite the tough economical period we are going through, and inculcate the "Ubuntu" dictum...
Is it lack of self respect, lack of self esteem or what exactly? Why will any woman think less of herself like that it’s really sad, why put yourself in a situation that all you benefit is material things are the nyatsis really that shallow? Why can’t these women learn to appreciate themselves and value themselves, why will they want to be used like that? How do they sleep at night knowing that all they render to this committed men is sex, sex,sex and more sex for the exchange of money, gifts and bed and breakfast when they have argued with their wives/partners, how does it make them feel to knowing that all they provide is a shoulder to cry for, for all these men, do they actually believe they will leave their wives/partners for them?
ReplyDeleteI mean mistresses sorry meant whores why can’t you learn to stand on your own 2 feet and make a living for yourselves, you are so insecure and all you lust for is taking what’s not meant for you, yes sure at the end of the day you will have an apartment to host him since he can’t be coming at your parents home, yeah sure couple of designer this and that clothes, bags, shoes etc, and yes sure if you sleek enough yes you might end up with a car but trust you me that all you will ever have from him as he will never ever ever leave that wife for you, so yepp you indeed a whore now jump to another victim cause you really are wasting your time with this one so you see you will keep screwing every married Tom, Dick and Jabulani for nothing other than material things and you will only end up more bitter as they will keep going back home...
HOWEVER the nyatsis aren’t the only ones to be blamed here, my word MEN why will they even want to eat outside? I still say cheating is too expensive why entertain it? why can’t you respect you vows you made to each other before God in the holy church, I mean when the priest said "LET NO MAN COME BETWEEN WHAT GOD HAS JOINED" what do you think he meant like really now? Just keep your zips up, your wallets closed when you around this hyenas they will ruin your lives but then again your responsible for the cheating as you are the ones that run after them right?!
I am a married man this Nyatsis they must stop destroying other families and you guys to drop your integrity down the drain just like that be Man enough .I am impressed with this article Lady .
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ReplyDeleteCheck out this letter on news24, it is relevant to you "Dear Mistress" letter.
http://www.news24.com/MyNews24/Letters/Unhappily-ever-after-or-the-big-A-20110805
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ReplyDeleteThat is a very challenging situation that man is faced with there...
At times our moral and upbringing do not give divorce as an option n definitely being unhappily married will not work for some of us. No, i did not say cheating is an option either. lol! I also found an interesting link by one of comments.. see below!
@ Destiny 88
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